8/13/2020 0 Comments “Breaking Up With Comparison”It's a similar story right? You know, that one where you've told yourself that business idea isn't for you, or that dream that has been planted in your heart since you were a small child can't possibly come true because you're not those people who you've seen accomplish those things before.
Or maybe your struggle is with the reflection you see in the mirror because for so long you've heard things in your head telling you that you will never measure up . If these things sound familiar, it sounds like you struggle with the vicious lie that is comparison. A simple definition of comparison according to dictionary.com is : to examine (two or more objects, ideas, people, etc.) in order to note similarities and differences. This by itself doesn't sound so bad because comparison in general isn't always bad. However, comparison becomes toxic the moment it becomes about defining and determining the worth of someone else or yourself. This happens in many different ways and areas of our lives: - Scrolling through Social Media - Triggering conversations - In the Workplace or even Church - and more! As soon as we feel the need to validate our worth by seeing what everyone else is doing and how they are doing it and what they look like - we've wandered into comparison. We often make so many excuses for keeping comparison in our lives and here's a few of them: - comparison is NORMAL in society - everyone does it - it's a habit The truth is God has more for us than to stay at a place that keeps us from His callings on our lives and from experiencing the fullness of joy that can be found in Him. ( "and to know Christ's love that surpasses knowledge, so that you may be filled with all the fullness of God." Ephesians 3:19 ) So, what can we do about comparison? 1) We have to acknowledge where we are struggling with it and dig deep to find out where it started and why. 2) Acknowledge and embrace God's love as well as His workmanship. This means that God doesn't make mistakes. Ephesians 2:10 says, " For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared ahead of time for us to do." God has something specific for each person and honestly comparison becomes a waste of time once we realize that life isn't a competition against other people. God is big enough to love each person He created with more than enough love left over. He loves you. He- loves- YOU! He didn't mess up when He made you the way He made you. 3) Choose Inspiration over Insecurity We can choose to be inspired instead of choosing a life of insecurity. What does this mean and what does this look like practically? It looks like knowing God's love and promises and holding on to them and believing them for you personally. As long as you doubt of God's love for you and don't recognize what He has for you personally: you will struggle with comparison because you will find yourself feeling despair seeing what He is doing for everyone else. When you see Him do those things, get inspired! Celebrate His goodness and realize He has good things for you too. When you see other people launch their businesses, or join the worship team, or get promoted in the work place- whatever it is for you- get inspired for the things you know in your heart God is preparing for you to do! You can do what He has called you to do and He has good plans in store for you as well. Psalm 84:11 " For the Lord God is a sun and shield; The Lord will give grace and glory; No good thing will He withhold From those who walk uprightly." Today is the day to release the need to be anything but the person God made you to be. There is only one you. There is only one me. So today , say goodbye to looking in the mirror and wishing there was a different reflection. Today, stop holding back on your dreams because you're too busy seeing what everyone else is doing. Today, stop trying to be a mom like the one you see on social media and rest in who God made you to be. You're doing so much better than you think you are. Today, stop worrying about what your grades your friends are getting and celebrate the personal progress you are making! You don't have to be like that Worship leader you see on TV, God needs you to show up as the person He made YOU to be. The truth is comparison has the ability to make us more selfish because as soon as we compare we start competing in competitions that were never supposed to be there. When we release comparisons and receive God's love we can truly show up and be blessings in our families, work places, churches etc. That's when we can celebrate others with pure motives instead of competing . Let me ask you, what is one thing you can do TODAY that will help you release comparison in order to be authentically you?
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